posted 6th May 2025
Pregnancy After Loss: Why It’s So Hard
I felt the need to write this because we see so many women who’ve been through the unimaginable pain of baby loss. At Daisyscan, we want you to know: you are not alone. We are here to support YOU through every step of this deeply emotional journey.
Pregnancy after a stillbirth can be an incredibly emotional and challenging journey. It’s often filled with a complex mix of grief, guilt, anxiety, and hope. Physically and mentally, the experience can feel overwhelming and all-consuming. While every parent’s journey is different, here are some supportive tips shared by others who’ve walked this path:
Don’t keep it all in—talk to your midwife or doctor if you're feeling anxious, need extra monitoring, or just need someone to listen. Your concerns are valid, and asking for help is never a waste of time.
Keep track of your baby’s movements and report any changes immediately, even during nights or weekends. Some find tools like Kicks Count wristbands helpful for reassurance.
Check if your hospital offers specialist support clinics for bereaved parents who are pregnant again. These can offer both comfort and connection with others in similar situations.
Bring a list of questions to appointments and write down important answers—anxiety can make it hard to remember everything.
Let your care team know if there are particular dates that are emotionally difficult, such as anniversaries. You may want additional scans or might wish to avoid the hospital around those times.
Ask about marking your maternity notes to reflect your previous loss, so you don’t have to explain repeatedly.
Connecting with others who’ve experienced loss can be deeply comforting. Online groups and journaling can help release and process your feelings.
Consider touring the hospital ahead of time and writing a birth plan with your midwife for added reassurance. And remember—there’s no rush to prepare baby items if it doesn’t feel right. Focus on what brings you peace now.